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There is no typical suicide victim. It happens
to young and old, rich and poor. Fortunately, there are some common
warning signs which, when acted upon, can save lives.
Here are some signs to look for:
A person might be suicidal if he or she:
-Talks about attempting suicide
-Has trouble eating or sleeping
-Experiences drastic changes in behavior
-Withdraws from friends and/or social activities
-Loses interest in hobbies, work, school, etc.
-Prepares for death by making out a will and final arrangements
-Gives away prized possessions
-Has attempted suicide before
-Takes unnecessary risks
-Has had recent severe losses
-Is preoccupied with death and dying
-Loses interest in their personal appearance
-Increases their use of alcohol or drugs
What To Do
-Here are some ways to be helpful to someone who is threatening
suicide:
-Be direct. Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide.
-Be willing to listen. Allow expressions of feelings. Accept the
feelings.
-Be non-judgmental. Don’t debate whether suicide is right
or wrong, or feelings are good or bad. Don’t lecture on the
value of life.
-Get involved. Become available. Show interest and support.
-Don’t dare him or her to do it.
-Don’t act shocked. This will put distance between you.
-Don’t be sworn to secrecy. Seek support.
-Offer hope that alternatives are available but do not offer glib
reassurance.
-Take action. Remove means, such as guns or stockpiled pills.
-Get help from persons or agencies specializing in crisis intervention
and suicide prevention.
Be Aware of Feelings
Many people at some time in their lives think about suicide. Most
decide to live, because they eventually come to realize that the
crisis is temporary and death is permanent. On the other hand, people
having a crisis sometimes perceive their dilemma as inescapable
and feel an utter loss of control. These are some of the feelings
and things they experience:
-Can’t stop the pain
-Can’t think clearly
-Can’t make decisions
-Can’t see any way out
-Can’t sleep, eat or work
-Can’t get out of depression
-Can’t make the sadness go away
-Can’t see a future without pain
-Can’t see themselves as worthwhile
-Can’t get someone’s attention
-Can’t seem to get control
Things to watch for when assessing potential risk...
(PLAID PALS)
Plan -- Do they have
one?
Lethality -- Is it
lethal? Can they die?
Availability -- Do
they have the means to carry it out?
Illness -- Do they
have a mental or physical illness?
Depression -- Chronic
or specific incident(s)?
Previous
attempts -- How many? How recent?
Alone -- Are they
alone? Do they have a support system? Partner? Are they intolerably alone right
now?
Loss -- Have they
suffered a loss? Death, job, relationship, self-esteem?
Substance Abuse (or
use) -- Drugs, alcohol, medicine? Current, chronic?
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